Since I was a young girl I have always been a supporter of unique and different. I have a
strong belief that everyone should be who they want and be able to express their self without
judgement from other. My style has always reflected complete individuality. For example, my
favorite hair color is purple. Up until a few weeks ago I had purple highlights in my hair and I
loved it. Go figure.
I am in my late 20s now and for some reason reflection has become a regular part of my life.
Apparently I feel old or something... I along with my husband and my parents have worked
hard. We have invested a lot of hours into farming and taking care of our cows. Over the past
few years I have had friends tell me that my Facebook page is full of cows. Then they continue
to look back to previous years on Facebook and it just shows lots of cows.
Now, I love my cows. This is an obvious passion since I am the herd manager for my family’s
dairy. But there is so much more to me than just cows and the farm. This happens so often to
people who own farms or manage them because farming takes so much time and dedication.
Often who we are outside of the farm is forgotten. I think it is even more common for dairy
farmers, especially with kids because they take a lot of time and energy. When my husband are
blessed enough to have kids, I know I will not be any better. The reality of it is, I enjoy working,
and I’m sure I will need to reread this column often to remind myself of my advice.
Anyway, I don’t believe that means we need to totally forget about ourselves! There is more to
us than cows and kids and corn. We all have outside interests and we need to remember what
those are. I am not saying we need to book out entire days each week to sit around and eat
cookies and do some day drinking. Although that would be nice from time to time. But I don’t
think there is anything wrong with doing a girls’ night once a month. Or maybe get a massage
once a week. Or joining a bowling league or a sewing circle; whatever suits your interests.
We are all intelligent, hard working, loving people who deserve a free evening to eat all the
chocolate and ice cream we want. Who doesn’t want to go to the movies to see that movie
everyone is talking about? Why wouldn’t we want to have a day at the spa with our girlfriends
laughing so hard our sides and faces hurt?
There is nothing wrong with leaving. I can clearly remember one time I felt like I was being
guilt tripped because I was going to a concert with my cousin. I repeated this mantra for half of
my drive, “You have no reason to feel guilty.” I knew I had put the time in and I deserved the
evening off from calls and chores. You know what? It was totally worth it!
Take an evening to have dinner with your spouse to celebrate the end of harvest! Plan a girls’
night with your closest friends. Send the kids with their grandparents and just sit around and
watch all of those shows you wish you had time for. Go golfing with your buddies. Enjoy some
time off because we all know we work enough to deserve it.